"Raising kids isn't fun.
I'd be glad if it was just boring. But it's also painful.
Even if I put down my greed and focus on my own life, I can't completely turn a blind eye to my children, like a homework assignment that can't be solved.
If I turn my eyes to them for even a moment, it's painful.
A high school student who is so abnormally sensitive that screams like crazy, who almost gets a seizure with just one wrong word, who threatens parents, who does nothing but just breathes and goes on their phone.
A college student who just talks nonsense and spends money without thinking.

I wonder why I was born and gave birth to such children, why I got married and had children.
If I didn't have to work, I'd go to the countryside and live for a month or two."

"- This generation is aware of all of this so that's why they are not having kids. The input:output ratio is 0

- I relate. Why did I get married and gave birth to children? I've been having regrets and felt a shame a couple of timesㅜㅜ

- Output zero. That's why I don't have children. I'm studying well, did well with getting employed and am earning good money. But every day, it's study, study, study, competition, competition, competition. I've never felt happy during my process of growth.

- Weren't not even the generation of children who worked in the fields and took care of the parents when they were old.

We're not even in the generation where parents would feed your children a little bit - or even not feed them at all, and children would go work at a factory right away to earn money, and beg their parents. 

Even if you raise them as princesses and princes to no end, parents are now sent to nursing homes when they get old."

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1. I'm a little older than my dongsaeng, but it's been so hard to take care of them ever since I was youngㅋㅋㅋㅋ Taking care of my dongsaeng is already hard so imagine a child...ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ  It's said that having children in old age gives you willpower, but when I see articles about men beating up old parents, I'm terrified^^

2. I don't want to have kids like me.... I'm not good enough, I'm not capable enough, I'll just live with my dog.

3. I'm sure my mom had a lot of those thoughts when she was raising me, and I'm sure she had a lot of those thoughts when I was growing up, but now that I'm out in the world, I have no one else but my mom. I used to think I was the best, that I got into college because I was good, that I got a good job because I was good, but I'm realizing that she helped me, and that without her, I'd just be grass. Maybe kids will only find out later.

4. I'm not married, but my friend is in a very low state these days because she's in the exact same situation as OP. She works part-time, has to bring her kid to the academy, feed her kid and does everything for them but she's always lamenting about why she got married and got a kid if she can't even do the basic things. Even so, I've been consoling her saying that when the hard period passes, her kid will become her good friend

5. I honestly have no confidence in raising a kid properlyㅋㅋㅠ

6. I think I'm going to think the same way, so I'm not going to have children. They're cute when they are an infant, but when they're an adult, it's really hard....... I can't believe my mom and dad love me this much. All their physical strength and money earned went towards me.. I can't do it.

7. I will never be able to have kids. The more people around me start to have kids, the more thoughts of having kids disappear

8. Seeing this makes me feel sorry towards my mom and dad

9. I don't have any confidence in being a parent nowㅠㅠ

10. Marriage and childbearing are impossible without love. Without love, the process is painful.

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