[theqoo] THE EXPERIENCE OF PEOPLE WHO LEARNED ABOUT GENZ STARE

I'm someone who teaches high school students.
More often than I expected, students come to ask questions, but when I try to correct a mistake and ask, "Why did you think this way?" they just blink and stare at me.
When I ask them exactly what part they don't understand, they start to cry.
Lately, I'm spending more and more time comforting them, telling them not to cry, and explaining things gently.
It’s not like I hit them or even raised my voice, but they just cry.

When I explain the student's home situation to the parents, the mother often gets teary too, saying how pitiful and unfortunate the child is.
I’m also raising a middle schooler myself.
But when my child has conflicts or tough interactions with friends, teachers, or other people, they don’t just sit there silently blinking.
In fact, my child expresses their thoughts so bluntly that I have to tell them to tone it down.ㅜ.ㅜ

Of course, I understand that some people are naturally sensitive and timid, but dealing with a generation that doesn’t express themselves at all, who just stare without communicating, it’s really exhausting for me.
More and more kids are pouring out all their frustrations and emotions only at home, and as a teacher, it’s incredibly frustrating.

Parents often say they feel sorry for their children, but I wish they would also consider the perspective of those of us who spend every day with many of these "pitiful" children. ㅜ.ㅜ
You have one child, but I have dozens.
And when many of them are like this...ㅜ.ㅜ

I'm the director of an academy that teaches elementary, middle, and high school students. I was born in the 1990s, so I didn’t expect to feel such a generational gap, but it’s honestly becoming quite serious.

Not all students are like this, of course, but about 30% of them struggle with immediate and smooth communication.
Instead of directly asking the teacher, they often talk as if to themselves saying things like,
"What are we supposed to do?"
or "Well, I’m not coming that day anyway..." but in a loud enough voice that it's clearly meant for the teacher to hear.
Many of them try to communicate this way, pretending it’s just a comment to the air.

At this point, if a student can simply have a clear conversation and respond appropriately, they come across as extremely polite and well-mannered, even as someone with great character.

I work at a high school, and these days, students treat any teacher who doesn't directly teach or interact with them like an NPC 
Even when we try to give basic guidance on daily behavior, they ignore it.
If it’s not a teacher they’re directly connected to, they look at us like, “Why is this teacher saying something to me?” as if it’s not their problem, and they just walk away... Haha, I’m serious ^^;;

I don’t think it’s out of malice and honestly, most teachers seem to have accepted it and now only try to guide students they’re directly responsible for.
(Even then, only when it becomes a real issue and even then, the response is often passive...)

"This came up midway through the interview too, the key point is that many students think, “Why are you talking to me?”

They only speak when it’s about something they care about, and only respond to what they think is important.
Everything else is seen as a personal attack.
If it were just confusion or nervousness, they’d avoid eye contact, but that’s not the case.

Even online, if someone has a slightly different opinion, they go beyond criticism, they mock, attack, and dismiss others personally.
This generation feels like ticking time bombs, like fighters ready to explode."

- That kind of behavior is commonly seen in children under the age of 6 who haven’t started school yet, but when fully grown adults act that way, it creates a huge sense of discomfort.

- At convenience stores, it's the customers who are the ones greeting the staff more politely at this point

- It just comes down to a lack of social skills.

- I was born in 2007, and I think that’s simply a lack of manners. Honestly, a lot of people around me act like that.

original post: here

1. This really feels like have autism... There's no person-to-person communication, they just stare blankly. There are so many kids whose social skills are completely broken.

2. They treat people in front of them like NPCs, and when you ask them to do something, they respond with things like, “Ugh, why am I the only one who has to do this?” complaining and swearing.

But if you call them out on it, they say, “I was just talking to myself.” Or, like in the original post, they just stare blankly and don’t respond, no communication at all.

3. At this point, it seems like mild autism

4. It's so true that when you go to convenience stores, the customers are friendlier than the staff

5. It's already frustrating when someone in front of you doesn’t share their thoughts, but when they don’t talk at all, it’s honestly really tough

6. Why are they always crying too? They look r*tarded

7. I wonder if today’s middle school, high school, and college students were affected by having spent 2–3 years socializing mostly online during the COVID-19 pandemic.

I remember people were already worried back then that it could negatively impact their social development.

8. They really can't live in society, maybe they're actually r*tarded... How can grown adults act like this?

9. Can they just SPEAK! with EMOTIONS! ㅠㅠ They don't know how to give attention

10. So not answering is their typical trait... All the new part-timers I taught wouldn’t respond at all, and it was so frustrating I thought I was going to lose it. If I say, “Do it like this,” they just say... “Uh huh.” I have to go all the way to “Got it? Do you understand?” before they even nod. Of course, there’s no “Sorry for messing up.” I just feel like fainting.

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