[theqoo] I WAS MEETING MY BOYFRIEND'S MOM FOR THE FIRST TIME AND THEY DIDN'T EVEN PAY

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about a year and a half now.

I was really touched by how he always looks out for me and is considerate, and especially because he treats his family well, I even started thinking seriously about marriage.

So for the first time, I went out to a restaurant with his parents and siblings all together.
After we finished eating and it was time to pay, usually people at least say something like, “Oh, we’ll get this,” even if it’s just polite talk, right…?
But they just said, “Thanks for the meal~” and casually walked out.

And as if it were completely natural, my boyfriend paid for the meal for all six of us in one go.
That was my first moment of shock.

Then we went to a cafe
They just said things like, “I’ll have an iced Americano,” “I’ll have a latte,” named their orders, and walked off again.

My boyfriend was about to casually pay for drinks for all six people too, so I was shocked a second time, and this time I paid instead.

On the way home, I asked him,
“Why are you paying for everything? Don’t your parents ever pay at all?”

He said his siblings are job seekers, and his parents have the mindset of, “We raised you until you became adults, so after that, you kids should be the ones paying,” so they don’t pay.
Because of that, whenever he eats with his family, he always pays, and he also occasionally buys his parents home appliances (like a TV).
(Of course, it’s not that his parents demand it, he just says things like, “I’ll buy it for you,” out of filial duty.)

His family isn’t particularly well-off (they live in a single house in the countryside and receive a small pension), but he’s not currently giving them living expenses.
Both of his parents are still willing to do small jobs, like working part-time at restaurants, so that part didn’t really bother me.

In reality, my boyfriend is pretty good at saving money compared to others his age, and since he works at a large company (he’s in his early 30s and makes around the high 5 million won range per month), it feels like this level of spending probably isn’t a huge financial burden for him.

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1. Ha our household also acts like that f*ck

2. They're incompatible~

3. This is such a red flag...

4. I'll definitely break up... Even if they share the same family tradition, they'll end up hating each other

5. Seriously, never adapt to other families' traditions like that...

6. It's better to not marry into a household like that... It's kinda bad

7. They care more about their own traditions than her

8. They don't even say thank you back?

9. Run, this is your ancestors sending you a signal

10. You'll have to do this all the time after getting married, so why do it

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