English is not my native language so please, bear with me y‘all ๐Ÿ™ƒ

I have this one friend I‘ve known for 15 years. We were super close but then in 2019, for no particular reason, we stopped keeping in touch. We still texted each other once in a while but the relationship became distant.

So one year later, in 2020, we did meet up. We were casually talking about life and stuff. And then suddenly, she was like „I had so much fun last month during my bachelor party. The girls organized this and that“. And I was like „Wait a minute…what? Your bachelor party? Why did you not invite me?“. All she responded was „eh…sorry? ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ถ“.

In that moment I felt disrespected. Not because I was not invited. I mean to a certain degree I do understand why she did that. But what pissed me off was the fact that she was casually talking about it, not thinking that her friend of 15 years might feel hurt. And the fact that she invited her friend whom she met 3 months ago.

Then she started talking about her wedding plans and told me „But you are definitely invited to my wedding!“. But because of Corona she had to postpone it and decided to move in with her bf who was living overseas. Our relationship became even more distant and awkward.

So 3 years later, August 2023: My sister had her bachelor party, I posted a few pictures and my friend reacted to them. Said some nice words and added: „Oh I definitely know how stressful the whole wedding planning can get! I‘m also getting married next month and we still have so many things to do!“. I only replied „Oh I believe that“. Nothing else. I didn‘t ask her anything about her wedding.

Then two weeks later I post pictures of the wedding of my sister. She reacts once again and says „Omg I can‘t believe that I‘ll also be married in two weeks ๐Ÿ˜ฑ“.

I was like girl wth are you trying to do? Are you trying to make me ask you if I‘m invited? Or are you seriously expecting me to be interested in your wedding when I’m not even part of it? It seemed so desperate and childish to me. If you don‘t plan to invite someone to your wedding, despite saying you would, isn‘t it common sense and a form of respect to explain the reason? I would have preferred it if she didn‘t mention her wedding at all instead of pretending like nothing‘s wrong and acting like I‘m a fool.

Do you guys think I’m being petty for feeling…annoyed and being distant to her? If she told me the reason and was like „You know we didn‘t really keep in touch that‘s why“ I would totally understand it. But I feel like she didn‘t take me seriously and I hate that feeling. I‘m not sure if I would invite her to my wedding.

Btw, other friends didn‘t even know that she got married. They saw that her surname on instagram changed and were very surprised that none of us were invited. I did not want to badmouth her that‘s why I asked the question here.

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