Q: I saw on social media that you've been staying in the countryside.
A: My parents are farmers in the countryside. I went there and stayed with them for a while.
Q: It seems like your parents must have been very worried.
A: They’re a bit less worried now, but when the (divorce) news first came out, they said they thought I was going to d*e. I’m not usually the type to get angry, but back then my aggression level went way up. I started doing things I normally wouldn’t do, so my family was shocked and worried. They said I shouldn’t be left alone. At first, my older sister stayed with me for a week, then my mom came and stayed as well. I was also hospitalized for about a month and got counseling. Through all of that, I’ve found some peace of mind now.
Q: In the end, is time the best healer?
A: There are many things I regret, and even I can't understand some of my own actions. But I think it was so hard to bear because the feeling of hatred toward someone became overwhelming. I had trusted that person so deeply that I couldn't forgive them, and there were moments when I felt like I would go crazy from the anger. But now, I've worked hard to find a sense of calm. Since I have to start rebuilding my life, I’ve been trying to forget and move on.
A: There are many things I regret, and even I can't understand some of my own actions. But I think it was so hard to bear because the feeling of hatred toward someone became overwhelming. I had trusted that person so deeply that I couldn't forgive them, and there were moments when I felt like I would go crazy from the anger. But now, I've worked hard to find a sense of calm. Since I have to start rebuilding my life, I’ve been trying to forget and move on.
Q: I heard your mother was against your marriage to Ahn Jaehyun.
A: My mom believed that once you get married, it's hard to live your own life. She wanted me, at the very least, to be able to work, travel, and live freely. Even when I introduced him to her, she said, “Right now, things are good between you two, so you’re treating each other well. But dating and marriage are different. Love can fade over time, and there will be a lot of tough moments. Wouldn’t it be better to take more time and go through those things together first, to see if he's someone you can overcome that with?”
But this situation ended up happening. And since it was ultimately my choice, I couldn't help but think: “What did I do wrong? Where did things start to go wrong?”
A: My mom believed that once you get married, it's hard to live your own life. She wanted me, at the very least, to be able to work, travel, and live freely. Even when I introduced him to her, she said, “Right now, things are good between you two, so you’re treating each other well. But dating and marriage are different. Love can fade over time, and there will be a lot of tough moments. Wouldn’t it be better to take more time and go through those things together first, to see if he's someone you can overcome that with?”
But this situation ended up happening. And since it was ultimately my choice, I couldn't help but think: “What did I do wrong? Where did things start to go wrong?”
Q: Despite your family's objections, why did you still choose to marry Ahn Jaehyun?
A: I didn’t want to keep dating anymore. Every relationship ends eventually, that’s how I saw it. I told him, “I want to get married and have a love that comes with responsibility. If not, let’s break up.” I actually said it prepared to end things, but he didn’t give up. He said let’s get married. He was the first man who came toward me like that, he was so determined.
A: I didn’t want to keep dating anymore. Every relationship ends eventually, that’s how I saw it. I told him, “I want to get married and have a love that comes with responsibility. If not, let’s break up.” I actually said it prepared to end things, but he didn’t give up. He said let’s get married. He was the first man who came toward me like that, he was so determined.
Q: Where do you think things started to go wrong?
A: We didn’t really have that many bad days. There wasn’t much to fight about, and we didn’t do many things the other disliked.
One thing I truly couldn’t stand was how much he drank, but since he’d always apologize the next day, I ended up letting that go too. I’m sure there were things he didn’t like about me as well. He’s a sensitive person, and since I always had pet hair on my clothes, that might’ve been tough for him.
But we never raised our voices. We laughed every day, held hands when we went to sleep, we lived a very normal life.
I think his behavior started to change after he was cast as the lead in a drama. He’d say he had to work out, leave the house early in the morning, and come home late at night, often drunk.
I just thought he was passionate about doing well in the role, so I complimented and encouraged him a lot.
Watching him work on his body for over a month made me see him in a new light. I felt happy, it seemed like he was growing.
Even when he got his own studio apartment in June and we barely stayed in touch for a month, I just assumed he needed some alone time to focus and prepare.
But after about a month, he told me he wanted to live freely... and that he wanted a divorce.
A: We didn’t really have that many bad days. There wasn’t much to fight about, and we didn’t do many things the other disliked.
One thing I truly couldn’t stand was how much he drank, but since he’d always apologize the next day, I ended up letting that go too. I’m sure there were things he didn’t like about me as well. He’s a sensitive person, and since I always had pet hair on my clothes, that might’ve been tough for him.
But we never raised our voices. We laughed every day, held hands when we went to sleep, we lived a very normal life.
I think his behavior started to change after he was cast as the lead in a drama. He’d say he had to work out, leave the house early in the morning, and come home late at night, often drunk.
I just thought he was passionate about doing well in the role, so I complimented and encouraged him a lot.
Watching him work on his body for over a month made me see him in a new light. I felt happy, it seemed like he was growing.
Even when he got his own studio apartment in June and we barely stayed in touch for a month, I just assumed he needed some alone time to focus and prepare.
But after about a month, he told me he wanted to live freely... and that he wanted a divorce.
Q: How did you feel when you heard he wanted a divorce?
A: I believe that true love means loyalty and compassion, caring for each other and taking full responsibility no matter what happens.
I don’t know how he felt, but as for me, even if he had lost a leg or was bedridden with a back injury, I would’ve taken care of him completely. That kind of commitment is what marriage requires.
But I think he felt differently. After we got married, I didn’t work on TV much. My husband was getting more work, and someone had to take care of things at home.
As he progressed, I felt like I was falling behind, and that’s when I started feeling abandoned.
When we first met, I was the senior, and he respected me.
But then, it felt like everything I did at home was being completely dismissed, like I was being thrown away just because I had become a burden, like someone missing a leg.
A: I believe that true love means loyalty and compassion, caring for each other and taking full responsibility no matter what happens.
I don’t know how he felt, but as for me, even if he had lost a leg or was bedridden with a back injury, I would’ve taken care of him completely. That kind of commitment is what marriage requires.
But I think he felt differently. After we got married, I didn’t work on TV much. My husband was getting more work, and someone had to take care of things at home.
As he progressed, I felt like I was falling behind, and that’s when I started feeling abandoned.
When we first met, I was the senior, and he respected me.
But then, it felt like everything I did at home was being completely dismissed, like I was being thrown away just because I had become a burden, like someone missing a leg.
Q: Ahn Jaehyun said he was so unhappy in the marriage that he even sought treatment for depression.
A: There was a day when we were laughing and having fun together, but out of nowhere, he said he had never been happy in his entire life.
So I told him, “Think back to your childhood. I’m sure there were many joyful moments. And you’ve had a lot of happy times with me too.”
He’s the type of person who tends to hold on to sad memories more than good ones, so I tried really hard to help him change that.
A: There was a day when we were laughing and having fun together, but out of nowhere, he said he had never been happy in his entire life.
So I told him, “Think back to your childhood. I’m sure there were many joyful moments. And you’ve had a lot of happy times with me too.”
He’s the type of person who tends to hold on to sad memories more than good ones, so I tried really hard to help him change that.
Q: As a celebrity, you must have been conscious of your public image. Wasn’t it difficult to share your side of the story through social media?
A: I wasn’t in my right mind, honestly. It’s been over 15 years since I debuted, and I had never once gotten angry or lashed out over malicious comments or mockery directed at me.
I believed that if you take things too seriously, you lose. So I always tried to laugh it off.
But this time, I just couldn’t.
Normally, I might be able to laugh and move on, but how could anyone just casually brush off a divorce?
Some people said things like, “Just let him go.” But this wasn’t like getting dumped by a boyfriend, it felt like being abandoned by family.
That’s why I screamed out in pain.
Even though he and I were under the same agency, the company one-sidedly took his side, so I had no other outlet to express my side of the story.
A: I wasn’t in my right mind, honestly. It’s been over 15 years since I debuted, and I had never once gotten angry or lashed out over malicious comments or mockery directed at me.
I believed that if you take things too seriously, you lose. So I always tried to laugh it off.
But this time, I just couldn’t.
Normally, I might be able to laugh and move on, but how could anyone just casually brush off a divorce?
Some people said things like, “Just let him go.” But this wasn’t like getting dumped by a boyfriend, it felt like being abandoned by family.
That’s why I screamed out in pain.
Even though he and I were under the same agency, the company one-sidedly took his side, so I had no other outlet to express my side of the story.
Q: Not everyone is sympathetic toward you.
A: Yes, I’m well aware. There are misunderstandings, and there are things I feel are unfair, but it can’t be helped.
The truth will come out eventually.
And I believe he also probably has things he feels are unfair too.
===
This was their text messages:
Ahn: Honey
Goo: Yeah. Honey
Goo: I feel sad and lonely
Ahn: I’m sorry
Goo: What are you sorry for?
Ahn: For a lot of things
Goo: You're sorry because you don't love me anymore
Goo: It’s so hopeless. Goodbye. I hope you meet someone good. (May 19, 2019)
Goo: Yeah. Honey
Goo: I feel sad and lonely
Ahn: I’m sorry
Goo: What are you sorry for?
Ahn: For a lot of things
Goo: You're sorry because you don't love me anymore
Goo: It’s so hopeless. Goodbye. I hope you meet someone good. (May 19, 2019)
Goo: Honey.
Ahn: Yeah?
Goo: What made you change? It's because of me, right? Where’s my sweet and cute honey gone?
Ahn: Are you drinking?
Goo: No, I'm just here. We used to have fun
Ahn: Thought you were drinking
Goo: You must have been unhappy. Where’s that silly, bubbly fool? Where’s my gentle one? Where’s the small bean who used to treat me so well?
Ahn: I think I was really depressed when we lived in Yongin
Ahn: Yeah?
Goo: What made you change? It's because of me, right? Where’s my sweet and cute honey gone?
Ahn: Are you drinking?
Goo: No, I'm just here. We used to have fun
Ahn: Thought you were drinking
Goo: You must have been unhappy. Where’s that silly, bubbly fool? Where’s my gentle one? Where’s the small bean who used to treat me so well?
Ahn: I think I was really depressed when we lived in Yongin
Goo: Honey, we were happy. Were you depressed because of troubles in your relationships with people?
Ahn: I don’t know either
Goo: I was in so much pain. Emotionally. I don’t think I’ll ever forget it
Ahn: Yeah… You were hurting too
Goo: I cried so much it felt like my chest was being torn apart. Is that why you changed?
Ahn: I can’t really find a reason
Goo: You've grown so distant. The you who loved me is gone. I don’t know what to do anymore
Goo: Give me money. I’m going to become independent. You can live comfortably on your own
Ahn: I’ll give it to you. It’s your dream
Goo: Once the building is finished, I’ll live in Yangpyeong. You can live in the apartment, invite people over as much as you want, and live freely
Ahn: I don’t know either
Goo: I was in so much pain. Emotionally. I don’t think I’ll ever forget it
Ahn: Yeah… You were hurting too
Goo: I cried so much it felt like my chest was being torn apart. Is that why you changed?
Ahn: I can’t really find a reason
Goo: You've grown so distant. The you who loved me is gone. I don’t know what to do anymore
Goo: Give me money. I’m going to become independent. You can live comfortably on your own
Ahn: I’ll give it to you. It’s your dream
Goo: Once the building is finished, I’ll live in Yangpyeong. You can live in the apartment, invite people over as much as you want, and live freely
Ahn: I do
Goo: Have you made up your mind?
Ahn: Yeah
Goo: Give me 100 million won
Ahn: Okay
Goo: Honey, why did you change? Let’s try to fix things
Ahn: I don’t think I can. I’m sorry
Goo: Then I won’t either. Sorry. You can’t divorce alone
Ahn: Please divorce me
Goo: I can’t as long as my dad is still alive. I’m sorry. Let’s just live like strangers
Goo: I’ll stay in the apartment until the house is built. Let’s stay out of each other’s way
Goo: My dad is the most precious person to me, more than my own life. That’s why I can’t get a divorce
Goo: Also, the interior design here, the Yongin house interior, all the housework, the wedding expenses, the donation costs, return them all to me
Ahn: I’ll give it all to you
original post: here
1. The fact that she went to the media and gave an interview, she really isn't in her right mind
2. Stop with this gender war issue, just look at them objectively as 2 humans, is there a side you wouldn't want to be associated with? ã…‹
3. She's a narcissist, if you end up mixed up with one, your life is basically f*cked. This is the case of that
4. Just reading Ahn Jaehyun's Katalk, it just seems like someone who has given up on everything... He's ready to give up the house, his money, and this isn't just about going to their hometown.
And what was it… Oh right, there was that thing about Ahn Jaehyun supposedly partying with women or something, but it later turned out to be just a small birthday celebration with staff members in a video. I remember everyone ended up feeling bad for Ahn Jaehyun. ã… ã…‹ã…‹ã…‹ã…‹
5. She spread rumors that a certain actress was the 'other woman'… and even though it was just her own claim without any proof, she exposed everything with explicit wording to completely ruin her. Honestly… it's time to let it go now
6. One thing that's clear, Ahn wanted the divorce and Goo didn't... ㅜ They've already had so many issues just with their marriage
7. Ahn Jaehyun fighting. The Katalk conversation made me gasp
8. Supporting Ahn Jaehyun
9. No but if she wanted the thing to remain quiet, she wouldn't have mentioned it in the first place. They've divorced such a long time ago, why are there still so many weird talks around it ã…¡ã…¡ This is why people grow tired of her. She already created so many misunderstandings with his coworkers and never apologized... Can't she just stay still?
10. This is so scary... And she's still going at it now
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