[life stories] I DON'T HAVE ANY FRIENDS

I’m a woman in my mid 30s. Just like the title says, I don’t have any friends… People say we’re born alone and d*e alone, but it still feels really lonely. My parents don’t have friends either. My mom has zero friends, and my dad is now 70 and doesn’t have any friends anymore either. They used to, but as they got older, they gradually stopped going to gatherings, and now neither of them goes out to meet even a single friend all year long.

Up until my 20s, I had around 15 friends (older, younger, same age, just close friends regardless of age). We used to meet regularly every year. But after entering my 30s and now mid 30s, everyone got married and moved away, had babies, found jobs in other cities… As we naturally kept postponing meeting up, now we’ve become more like just KakaoTalk contacts who only exchange greetings on holidays like Lunar New Year… We don’t even meet anymore. That’s what it’s become.

I’m also single right now, with no boyfriend. And I’m an only child.
On both sides of my family, for whatever reason, all the relatives seem to hate each other like enemies, so everyone cut contact. I don’t even have cousins. It’s literally just me alone…

Are there really people like me? Only child + no cousins + unmarried + no friends? Maybe this sounds dramatic, but I already feel like as I get older, the loneliness will only get worse and worse… Sometimes I wonder if things would’ve been better if I at least had a younger sibling. When I was younger, before turning 30, I never really felt lonely for being an only child… But as time passes and I get older, it feels so empty. Once my parents are gone too, I feel like I’ll become like an orphan… with no relatives, cousins, or siblings left to stay in touch with…

Just rambling…

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1. [+23, -0]

I feel like this is the majority of people at that age ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ how many people can still meet friends every week, every month like you did in your 20s...

2. [+27, -1]

Me too, I don't have a single friend or acquaintance. Most of my life has been like that. I also cut ties with my family

3. [+23, -7]

Let's be friends

4. [+14, -0]

It sounds cliche that to say it's a self-fulfilling prophecy, but it’s actually true. My friend used to date a really pretty, tall, well-known model back in her 20s, but due to personal family issues and her extremely strong "I" personality type, she now just stays at home. She only goes out occasionally with me or her mom... The girl who used to have so much fun is now just staying at home. It’s been a long time since she’s had a boyfriend, too. While innate tendencies might play a part, I realized that by the time you reach your 30s, you really just make your own life

5. [+14, -1]

I'm in my early 40s, or rather, heading toward my mid 40s. I don't have any friends, either. My colleagues at work are just fateful connections. The important thing is that although I have many sisters, I hardly keep in touch with them. Since I only have my mother, I just fulfill my duties. I lived my life diligently through my 30s, and now that I'm entering my 40s, I'm tenaciously preparing for my retirement because I have no intention of getting married. Also this might sound a bit strange, but... honestly, gathering with women to listen to each other and keep the mood up drains my energy, so I mostly live alone. My main interest is home interior design. I own two apartments (a little over 800 million won), and since they are in the suburbs, they aren't that expensive, so I'm working hard to pay off the loans. People betray you, but in my experience, real estate doesn't. And well, I'm not sure if I really need friends. Am I too individualistic?

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